Self pity is an inability to accept a situation or circumstance feeling that you are a victim of something or someone. It is the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.
The qualities of self pity are:
- Self indulgent: This attitude is concerning one’s own difficulties, hardships, etc., causing people to dwell on their sorrows and misfortunes.
- Paralyzing: A state of mind where one doesn’t want to accept a situation nor have the ability to cope with it.
- Victim feel: The person believes that he or she has been a victim of a situation and willing not to accept it instead tries to go back into time before being victimised.
- Look out for sympathy: A person looks out for sympathy from others, usually, for in that sympathy they hope to find their happiness and pleasant feelings. They depend on others for support and encouragement to make them feel better.
- Pride: When people don’t want to get out of their slump of self-pity, they resist others efforts to help, thus feel pride in their suffering.
The negative effects of self-pity are inferiority complex, sense of unworthiness, use it as a way to get attention, paralyze into inaction, seeking elsewhere for healing, blaming external sources, martyr-complex and feeling burdensome.
One needs to overcome this dangerous addictive emotion. Steps of self transformation which stems from understanding and acceptance of oneself is the beginning. Be thankful for each day and appreciate everything in life with gratitude. Gain vitamin D from exposing to sun on a daily dose that alleviates your mood and energy levels. Break the pity cycle by watching funny videos and get over depressed mind state. Exercise or do yoga to boost your stamina. Read good stuff that inspires you on daily basis. Bring changes to your routine. Makes changes to your living environment to pleasantness. Develop some hobbies.
Thus build your self esteem and self worth and get over the worst addictive habit of self-pity.